The nature of woman is to bring into manifestation the impulse received from the man – the spark of consciousness.

Nowadays, women tend to forget that it is in their nature to follow consciousness and to create the necessary environment for the seed to grow and blossom. Instead they are more focused on controlling the man, denying their own nature in the process. In couple relationships, this tendency limits the beauty of manifested and shared true love and turns the relationship itself into a playground with strict rules which both lovers struggle to respect or to break, ending up bored, tired and unhappy. In order to grow, love needs a foundation which is free of any limitations, where it can reveal its tremendous power, magnificence and beauty to those who share it, taking them to the heart of God. In this article we present to you the first 15 fundamental differences between ignorant women, who keep looking for Prince Charming and yet are always alone, and the initiated women – initiated in Tantra or in the mysteries of the transfigurative lovemaking, who know how to polarize the man they love, so that their relationship is a true embodiment of divine love.

1. Ignorant women do not know what they want in life, they have no spiritual aspirations and do nothing in order to build a couple relationship, however, they foolishly keep waiting for a man to call them. Initiated women have their own plans and aspirations and gracefully tell the man whom they value that he is welcome in certain activities where it is integrated that they participate together.

2. Once they finally find a man who shows interest in them, with whom they can build a couple relationship, Ignorant women want to control him, to suffocate the man in their life. Initiated women know the secrets of the art of fascination and thereby manage to keep their chosen lover, so that “controlling” him becomes completely pointless.
3. Having nothing better to do, Ignorant women systematically “check” for the man who has not called them yet.
Initiated women are integrated with all their heart in spiritual activities, so that they do not become terrorized by the idea: “Oh, my God, he has not called me yet!”

4. Ignorant women desperately try to enchain a man, using sexuality as an exchange product. Initiated women know that only Tantric eroticism, based on sexual continence and sublimation, through its extraordinary transforming effects, always make a man want to unite with that Tantric woman in a spiritual couple.
5. Ignorant women either fake pleasure grotesquely, believing that this is what is required and that it will earn them appreciation, or they silently wait for the man to finish what he does there, in his selfish and often animalistic way.
In such a situation, Initiated women stop, get up, get dressed and playfully suggest: “We either learn the secrets of Tantric lovemaking together, or I am not the one you are looking for.”

6. Ignorant women are terrified by the periods when they do not have a lover.
Initiated women transfigure this period as a valuable time in which they can make huge spiritual progress, merging directly with Shiva, the supreme lover.

7. Due to the resonance with inferior levels, Ignorant women tend to ignore the so-called “good guys” – beings who modestly choose beneficial resonances, but they do not make a big fuss about it, simply saying: “He cannot make me happy.”
Initiated women, full of transfiguration and courage, ignore only the so-called “bad boys” – beings who display a state of masculinity – the macho men – and who in fact have a gross orientation towards superficial and often demonic aspects, opposing any transformation.

8. Ignorant women can bring the man to a state of orgasm with discharge, in superficial adventures that lead only to frustrations and suffering.
Initiated women – especially in Tantra, can bring the man to the realization of the Supreme Self, through the spiritual evolution in couple based on love, respect, transfiguration and sexual continence.

9. Due to their gregarious orientation, ignorant women are always worried that they are not good enough or beautiful enough for a certain man.
Initiated women know how to value their qualities in the continuous process of Self Inquiry, so that they become very beautiful and very good for any man.

10. Ignorant women lack self-confidence and desperately try to monopolize all the time and attention of their man with all kinds of demands and moods.
Initiated women realize that they can easily offer the space their lover needs in the process of polarization and in this way the time they spend together in a couple is even more pleasant and more special. (Tantric aphorism: The waiting increases the pleasure.)

11. Not knowing what a spiritual test is and looking only for the pleasure experienced in happy moments, ignorant women despise the man who is going through a difficult period, considering him weak.
Initiated women offer support and understanding also when the couple goes through hard times.

12. Ignorant women constantly ask to be understood, protected, and helped, and keep repeating this to their man, while they hardly offer him anything.
Initiated women create the magic of delicious intimacy, where the man will mutually and spontaneously share his understanding, love, attention, tenderness, protection within their loving united couple.

13. An ignorant woman believes that the suffering experienced in the relationship with a man is only his fault. Later on, she projects an imaginary fault on all the other men that will follow, as she believes they have to pay for the mistakes of the first one. This is the process that creates trauma.
Initiated women evolve fast, learning from all the experiences of life in the couple, whether they are good or bad.

14. Ignorant women, caught in the game of their own imagination, believe that they fall in love and then they madly hunt for the object of their affection, ignoring all the signals they receive and all aspects of reality which do not fit their precious illusions.
Initiated women do everything in an integrated spiritual way; they carefully pay attention to synchronicities and mysterious signs so that they are not fooled by the game of desire and imagination when they fall in love.

15. Hearing these statements, ignorant women will either feel attacked and will aim to judge the messenger, ignoring the wisdom of the content, or they will be touched, finding themselves in some of these descriptions and, full of aspiration, they will start the process of initiation in order to become perfect Shaktis, thus fulfilling their destiny in this life.
Initiated women, Tantric or on any other path leading to supreme realization, will continue their evolution towards the state of perfect Shakti, sharing these ideas with others, while also adding new ideas of practical wisdom from their own experience.

Taken from "The spiritual couple relationship" conference kept by Mihai and Adina Stoian in 2006, Costinesti, Romania.